How to Be a Good Lover is an exhibition that operates within the pedagogical architecture of femininity through which the conditions of gendered desire are first encountered, rehearsed, and internalized. It traces the aftermath created by the formative systems of media, play, domestic space, and fantasy, which instructs girls on how to be legible, pleasing, and ultimately chosen. How to Be a Good Lover resists framing love, partnership, or femininity as natural or developmental milestones, positioning girlhood instead as a prolonged apprenticeship in anticipation, self-regulation, emotional labor, and the cultivation of desirability. Within this system, desire is externalized and is learned as something to be produced for others rather than articulated from within. As a result, to be “a good lover” becomes shorthand for a perfected performance of femininity, one that is nurturing, compliant, emotionally attuned, and endlessly accommodating.
New York City, NY; NYC